You will notice that I capitalized the word NEW in the title of this article. Why, you ask? Well, because all that lies ahead of you will be NEW!
- New opportunities and possibilities
- New relationships…even with some of the same people who have been in your life
- New focus and commitments
- New social activities
- New patterns and rituals
- New vision
I love the last week of each year because it is a time to Let Go of what has not served us and create the space for all that can and will happen in the year ahead!
Each of you has expressed to me at one point or another the challenges that you face with your separation and divorce. I, myself, continue to face the challenges of single and co-parenting with an Ex and a divorced lifestyle so I understand completely the emotional, physical and financial toll that it takes to manage so much challenge and transition.
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However, I learned years ago that LIFE happens when we turn obstacles into opportunities. I have also learned that it is far more exhausting, overwhelming and anxiety producing to remain focused on those things that I am unable to control. And so, I don’t anymore. |
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Instead, I focus my INTENTION and ATTENTION on those things that I can control:
- my health and wellness
- my finances
- my choice in friendships and relationships
- my relationship with my children
- my activities and hobbies
- my thoughts
- my energy
Believe it or not, every one of these items is well within your control. It is our fear of the unknown and our comfort in the familiar that keeps us STUCK in where we are instead of where we can be!
As you enter 2010, remember that it is a NEW year…a year of the unknown and the grand possibility of creating what YOU want!
That 2010 will be filled with all that you focus on and create…not what you are given.
Recently, a significant number of you have written to me describing the situations that you face with your Ex or Soon to be Ex husbands….financially, emotionally, parenting related, and in all other ways.
While I completely understand all that you are going through, having been there myself, I want to share with you a simple truth:
The more you focus on your Ex and all of the anxiety, overwhelm, sadness, anger, hostility, and fear that he brings to you…the more you will get of exactly the same.
Why?
Because we always get more of what we focus our attention on.
This is the simple and absolute truth.
Bonnie’s call to me this morning was evidence of this truth. Her ability to control her focus and attention and commit to turning obstacles into opportunities, opened to the door to a series of unexpected, anticipated and incredible events that have moved her closer to creating her ideal life. It is that simple.
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So, while you may be comfortable in focusing on all that your separation, divorce or life after divorce has been like till now…continuing the same pattern of focus into 2010 will only bring you more of what you already have. |
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Are you ready for something NEW?
I am. And I hope that you will join me this year in making 2010 the year YOU decide to welcome in the NEW…even if you have no idea of what that is!
Even if it scares you to death!
Even if you have no idea of how you are going to get there!
Even if you haven’t clarified your vision.
Even if you feel alone!
Because you are not. We are all in this together.
I wish you a happy, healthy, joyous, prosperous and abundant new year!
