Summertime….and the living is easy!
Yeah it is!
We all want it! Summer fun! Laughter, freedom…driving with the top down! Doesn’t the fantasy sound great?!
Well, it doesn’t have to be a fantasy. And, it doesn’t matter where you are in your journey. At any stage, before, during or after divorce, you can have easy living this summer…and every day from now on!
it is your emotional divorce and journey that is most important NOW , because it will shape your future…your destiny.
If you are contemplating divorce….
If you are in the uncomfortable stage of evaluating whether a divorce is what you really want, this can be the summer that you explore the options you have.
We have been taught that there is a quick fix to every problem. If I am not happy, I can get divorced and be happy. Or, if I continue to stay married, it will be easier and I will be happy. Guess what? Staying or going is not the answer. The answer is far more complex and the grass is definitely not greener…take it from someone who knows! The source of your happiness is you. And when you decide that you want to know what will truly make you happy…you will take action to find out.
If you are in the middle of your divorce…
If you have made the decision to divorce or the decision has been made for you, you are probably in the the middle of a complex negotiation and transition.
You are not alone, every divorce is complex…legally, financially and emotionally. What is different is the emotional state that you create as your foundation. If you have made the decision that you would like to CHOOSE to create a life that you desire, then creating a strong and healthy foundation is the key to doing just that. This summer can be your opportunity to separate your Emotional Divorce from your Legal Divorce. The more you address your emotional divorce, the better your legal divorce will be…proven fact. Individuals who get support for themselves early on in the divorce process will have a greater chance of getting what they want in their legal and financial divorce.
Summer, without the homework issues, shorter days and frigid temperatures, is a wonderful time to begin to focus on you…your greatest asset.
If you are moving forward after divorce…
If your divorce is over but you don’t feel like your life is the way you would like it, you are at a fantastic point in your life!
It may not feel like it, but let me share with you why you are exactly where you need to be! First, it does not matter if your divorce was just finalized, if you are one year out or it’s been ten years since your marriage ended, your journey begins TODAY. Today is the day that you can step powerfully into your new life. All it takes is a decision to take that step.
Ultimately, it is not your separation or divorce that will shape your life, it is you.
The choices you make.
The actions you take.
And yes, it is that simple.
But not if you don’t have the skills, tools and practice to make it happen. Most of us never had the “education” that we need to live our lives the way we want. We learned algebra, spelling and biology, but we weren’t taught:
- how to communicate without insulting
- how to make decisions in complex and uncomfortable situations
- how to create boundaries without being angry
- how to honor ourselves without being selfish
- how to be sad without being mad
- how to meet all of our needs in healthy ways
- how to indulge in our passions without guilt
To live the life you imagine, you will have to learn all of these skills, and more. You will have to fill your “life toolbox” so that you can manage anything that comes your way!
It is there, ready for you to take. So, put your hand in mine and let me teach you, support you and applaud your brilliance!
