So, I mentioned that I have recently gone through a situation where I was, yet again, challenged to set boundaries, honor them, and in doing so, face my fears and do it anyway.

What was so difficult about this situation was that it brought up for me exactly the same emotions that I felt at the time that I made the decision to divorce. At that time, I knew in my heart that my marriage was not allowing me to be the BEST woman that I could be…and that it didn’t fit with what I define as my IDEAL relationship.

It was painful to admit this.

I was afraid. Afraid to tell anyone…myself, my husband, my parents, my friends and most of all…my kids. But I knew that I had no option.

To stay in a marriage that did not bring out the best in me, and did not provide me with what I deep down knew that I wanted, was not an option.

However, knowing this, did not make it easy. In fact, I didn’t know how I would find the strength to get through all that needed to happen to get to the light at the end of the tunnel.

Do you feel this way?

What I found at the time of my divorce, is that I was…and am, much stronger than I could possibly imagine.

I also found that I did, in fact, know exactly what I want and was just really afraid of what it would mean if I moved forward in getting it, without my marriage. SCARY!

In my work with my clients, I find that this is ALWAYS true. You DO have clarity around what you want. However, where we all find ourselves “stuck” is in honoring this clarity…especially when it is painful to do so. We become afraid to “say it” and instead, we either accept a situation that we know is not right for us or we don’t tell the “whole” truth…we say “kinda” what we mean, but not really.

Sound familiar?

So, back to my recent situation. I was once again in this situation…faced with having to tell someone that I love, how I REALLY felt and honor what I know that I want.

It was scary.

It was painful.

In doing so, I risked losing this person. Which I was prepared to do…because I love myself and know that I ALWAYS need to honor who I am and what I know to be true to me.

But I did it anyway. And I did so after having my coach work with me and guide me through my fear and pain. She is amazing.

Guess what. I did not lose this person. Things are not the same, but I am moving forward in a way that honors how I feel and what I want. It is part of the journey.

So please, have faith in yourself…your beautiful, courageous and magnificent self. I know that YOU know exactly what you want.