How many times do you find yourself saying, “I can’t” or “It won’t work, because…..”.

Have you counted lately?

Each time I begin coaching with a new client, we start at the very beginning. I ask them to share with me where they are, where they want to be and how they are going to get there. I also ask them what they believe is holding them back from reaching their goals.

Inevitably, each begins with the “story” of her marriage, separation or divorce and how it has prevented her from being, doing or creating what she really wants in her life. As she is sharing this “story” with me, it is clear that there are many excuses that have been used, which have now become limiting beliefs for her.

Then the funs begins! I now have the opportunity to help her let go of these limiting beliefs and excuses, and watch her begin to move forward along her journey!

One of the reasons that I love what I do is that I have been there.

I spent most of my marriage making excuses. Excuses for why I couldn’t be what I wanted. Why I couldn’t do what I wanted. And why I couldn’t get divorced and find the happiness I deserved. They were all kinds of excuses.

Excuses like:

• it is selfish to go out and do what I want
• good mothers take care of their children first, then themselves
• my family won’t approve
• I don’t have time

And then, when I became separated, I used to say, “I can’t do that because my divorce is not over.” Or, “When the divorce is over, then I will…..”.

It wasn’t until I had my very own coach, that I discovered how much these words, thoughts and limiting beliefs were holding me back. She asked me, “so, why do you believe that you have to wait until the divorce is over to move forward?”

WOW!

I had no answer. There was absolutely no real reason why I couldn’t begin doing what I had to do and taking steps towards creating my new life. No, the divorce was not finalized, but it would be. And there was not a lot I could do to make it move along any faster. The extra time would enable me to gain clarity and begin to formulate a plan for what I wanted my life to look like.

And so, with my new Life Coach, and her unbelievable support and guidance, I simply stopped saying “I can’t” or “It won’t work” or “When the divorce is over…”, and instead took one little step after the other towards designing a new life.

It was also at this moment that I knew what my life purpose was and how I wanted to spend my time professionally. I wanted to work exclusively with women through the transition of divorce and support them to take those steps.

So here I am. And with each of you that choose to coach with me, I will hear your story and your excuses. But I will not accept them!

I will support you to release those limiting beliefs and create a new “story”. A story that says, “I CAN” and “I Will”. A story of no more excuses and instead, a step by step plan for beginning your journey of self discovery and deliberate creation.

And then…I will get to watch you transform into a breathtaking butterfly, ready to soar.

I wish you the most wonderful Labor Day Weekend and a fabulous entry into fall! I look forward to the opportunity to support you as you begin to take those first steps forward!