There is so much that I want to share with you as we leave 2010 and enter the New Year and Decade with confidence, clarity, comfort and control! But, I don’t have enough room in this one Dzine to write it all down!
So, I have decided to write my Top 10 Tips for Creating Your New Year Mindset and hope that it gives you a brief outline for moving into the new year.
Regardless of where you are in the journey of divorce, all of these tips will apply to your life and offer you ideas for how to begin to approach your future.
- Leaving “it” Behind
As I mentioned earlier, before you can enter the New Year, you will need to leave behind all that no longer serves you in 2010. All of the negative emotions, behaviors that are self sabotaging, and limiting beliefs and fears that hold you back from all that you want to accomplish.
So, write them all down and some time before December 31 you can burn the list releasing them into the universe, bury them under a tree that brings you joy and pleasure, or rip it into little tiny pieces and toss them in the garbage. Release them from your life so that you can create the space necessary to enter the new year and decade.
- Big Vision
Often it is scary to let go of “what was” in order to make room for what will be because when we do let go, we create an open slate ahead of us. To help us manage the discomfort of not knowing what will be, we can create a Big Vision for what our next year will look like.
You can either write this Big Vision down, or better yet, you can create a vision board to symbolize all that you want to do, be or create in the coming year. Take a big poster board and on it, create what your New Year will look and feel like. Use markers to write words or messages that you want and glue to stick pictures and images of what you want to create in 2011. When it is done, you can post it up in a place thatyou will see each and every day.
- Set Your Intentions
Once you have let go of all that does not serve you and created your Big Vision, now it is time to set your intentions.
You can set your intentions to commit to the Big Vision, including all of the behaviors, patterns, and habits that you want to create moving forward. Then you can focus your attention on your intentions which will become a big part of your inner guidance system.
- Goal Setting
Learning how to set goals is critical to being able to reach them. The process of managing your goals; short, medium and long term, will allow you to move closer to your Big Vision each week and month.
Write down your top three short, medium and long term goals around the Big Vision that you have already created.
- Daily Practice
The problem with “New Year Resolutions” as they are usually defined, is that there is a great goal, with no plan behind it. So, it is no wonder that approximately 95% of people give up on their resolutions in the first month.
To accomplish your goals, you will need a plan behind each one as well as a daily commitment an action to bring you closer to reaching them. If you are making progress every day and week, before you know it you will be attaining the goals that you have set for yourself.
- Discipline
The other area that most people fall short in the “New Year Resolution” arena is in thinking that because they set them, that they will simply happen. Even with the best plan, you will have to commit to the discipline of taking consistent action every day if you are going to continue successfully along your journey of transformation.
The New Year is the perfect time to re-ignite your commitment to YOU and to a new life discipline.
- Circle of Support
Part of letting go may include relationships that no longer serve you. One of the keys to moving forward, wherever you are in your journey, is to surround yourself with people (friends, colleagues and mentors) that support your progress moving forward.
To do this, you may need to let certain relationships go, even if they are friends or lovers. This may be an uncomfortable task for you, but out of this discomfort will come your greatest growth and will, again, create space for you to welcome new people in. Take a few moments over the next week to honestly evaluate the relationships in your life…and make sure that they each support your growth and well being.
- Focus
You have done a lot of work by now in getting clear, setting intentions, creating goals and making space for all that you want to do, be and create.
As long as you keep your FOCUS on your Big Vision, your goals and your daily discipline and action plan, you will find yourself with a wonderful momentum forward.
- Set a New Standard
Over the past year you may have found yourself desiring change and hoping that you would find a way to move forward. You may also have focused on simply “getting by”.
As you enter the New Year, set a new standard for yourself. New expectations, a new “bar”, a new way of being. We are blessed with the ability to CHOOSE exactly how we want to be and feel. This is your year for defining what you want it to be.
- New Year Celebration
Celebrate! Not just celebrate the New Year on December 31, but each and every movement forward and success, small or large.
We all typically focus on what we don’t have, didn’t do or fell short of…a habit that leaves us disempowered. Make this year the year you BREAK this habit and commit to focusing your attention and energy on all that you have, do, and achieve!
Have a wonderful holiday and I look forward to supporting you to make 2011 your best year yet!
