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| Unfulfilled Marriage | Separation | Divorce | After Divorce |
Regroup
Your divorce is final and you are left wondering, “What do I do now?” Feelings of loss and sadness are daily occurrences, yet you don’t want to look back with regret. What you do want is to communicate effectively with your ex-husband, but are unclear how to forge a post-divorce relationship with him.
Understandably, your emotions range from loneliness and isolation one minute to hope and relief the next. By constantly worrying about how you will manage, you feel increasingly out of control. As a result, your anxiety level increases and the questions that cross your mind include:
- What should I tell my friends, children, colleagues?
- Will I ever be happy again?
- What will happen to me?
- How am I going to survive?
During this time of uncertainty, it is critical to acknowledge the sadness, confusion and fear you are experiencing. In fact, understanding your thoughts, emotions and realities will be key to preparing you for your journey.
Together we will create a plan to help you move through each day, week and month with an emphasis on healing your wounds, building your esteem, discovering your courage and finding your happiness.
Renew
Although your divorce is over you still feel like changes need to be made. Recognize that coming to terms with your new reality is critical to planning for your future. After all, you are trying to manage the current areas of your life while experiencing lingering emotions from the divorce.
Now you are ready to reconnect with who you are. You will discover your true self, find new social and support circles, re-acquaint yourself with your interests and passions, as well as assess where you are and what you need. Some of the questions you may be asking yourself are:
- Why did this happen?
- Who am I?
- What do I really want?
- How can I manage all of this?
At this point, your goal is finding inner peace and contentment. To achieve this, you will prepare yourself for wherever your journey leads and welcome all the opportunities and possibilities that present themselves. You will also rekindle your inner light and discover the courage to make the decisions that will create your extraordinary life.
Reinvent
You are ready to move forward and this is the phase where you begin the rebuilding process. You will evaluate your professional situation and aspirations, explore what healthy and happy love relationships look like, and redefine your social, recreational, spiritual and financial situation. Although it may feel uncomfortable now, flirting and dating will be reintroduced to your life. As a result, you may begin to think about:
- What is my life purpose?
- How am I going to become financially independent?
- Will I ever find another relationship?
- How can I do everything that I want?
- What are my possibilities?
Moving forward, you will also learn how to plan and create goals for yourself in all aspects of your life. By discovering the tools and resources you need to create realistic action plans, you will experience momentum toward reaching your goals. Ultimately, you will gain clarity on what you want and how you can live an extraordinary life.
