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| Unfulfilled Marriage | Separation | Divorce | After Divorce |
Regroup
Your marriage is struggling and you don’t know where to turn. You can’t find a way to communicate with your husband/partner and thoughts of separation cross your mind. As the days pass, your feelings of sadness intensify.
In addition, the decisions that lay ahead seem daunting and you begin to feel overwhelmed. Whether or not you’ve already decided to separate, you just want the fighting and tension to diminish. Your anxiety is compounded by the sense that your life is spinning out of control. Inevitably, you begin to wonder:
- Should I separate?
- What exactly does separation mean?
- How can I even talk to my husband/partner about this?
- What will happen to me?
During this time of uncertainty, it is critical to acknowledge the sadness, confusion and fear you are experiencing. In fact, despite the paralysis you are feeling, understanding your thoughts, emotions and realities will be key to preparing you for your journey, be it toward or away from separation.
Together we will create a plan to help you move through each day, week and month with an emphasis on healing your wounds, building your esteem, discovering your courage and finding your happiness.
Renew
Regardless of the feelings you are having, you are certain about one thing – you are unhappy and not sure what to do next. However, you haven’t identified if the source of your unhappiness is your marriage or within you.
So, you have taken steps to focus on specific marriage issues with your husband/partner but realize that in order to contribute fully to the relationship, you need to be your best self.
Now you are ready to reconnect with who you are. You will discover your true self, find new social and support circles, re-acquaint yourself with your interests and passions, as well as assess where you are and what you need. Some of the questions you may be asking yourself are:
- Why did this happen?
- Who am I?
- What do I really want?
- How long will this transition take?
The goal is finding inner peace and contentment. To achieve this, you will prepare yourself for wherever your journey leads and welcome all the opportunities and possibilities that present themselves. You will also rekindle your inner light and discover the courage to make the decisions that will create your extraordinary life.
Reinvent
This is the phase where you begin the rebuilding process. You will integrate your personal journey with your relationship journey. By doing this, you will gain insight on how to communicate and share your joy with your husband/partner. You will evaluate your professional situation and aspirations, as well as define your social, recreational, spiritual and financial situations. As a result, you may begin to think about:
- What do I want my life look like?
- How can I contribute more fully to my marriage?
- How can I get everything that I want?
- What are my possibilities?
You will learn how to plan and create goals for yourself in all aspects of your life. By discovering the tools and resources you need to create realistic action plans, you will gain momentum toward reaching your goals. As a result, you will improve your relationship with your husband/partner. Ultimately, you will gain clarity on what you want and how you can live an extraordinary life.
